hold your horses!

I’m posting this solely so that my last post isn’t the first thing that new visitors read when they find my blog.  I tried to choose my words carefully, but I see how it easily could be misread as me hating escorting but feeling pressured to do it.

I’ve gotten a lot of hits in the last day from someone who posted my link in a forum.  One of the responses to that posting was:

“I really try to avoid guys like this who’re escorting just to pay the bills, but seem to hate it. I seem to run into this mindset more with the higher priced guys (maybe priced to get over their squeamishness), so I have yet another reason to avoid them. A few insightful questions and a keen intuition work wonders to filter this type out.

My favorite type of “hobbyist” is a guy who’s just a naturally gifted “people pleaser” who’s great with the banter, genuinely loves interacting and getting to know strangers and has an “everybody deserves some affection” frame of mind.”

Now I think a “hobbyist” is one who hires escorts? Haven’t really used that term, not sure if he’s talking about the escorter or the escortee here…  but either way, in terms of the excerpt from his reply, I am TOTALLY the latter.  I don’t find escorting demeaning, soul eroding, hateful, etc etc etc…  and I think I’ve communicated that in previous posts.  I wouldn’t be doing this if I thought it was an awful thing.  In fact, I almost always walk away feeling validated.  As I said in a reply to a comment on my last post:

“My point isn’t that I hate myself when I do this… it’s that some days, I don’t feel like heading into the office!”

I also should have clarified my comment about trying “everything else” besides escorting every time I need money.  I don’t do this because I despise escorting.  It’s that every time I escort (especially with someone new) it’s like jumping off a small bridge.  It’s a little scary!  And yes, someday I’d like to move on from it.  Not because I hate every second, but because I’m an actor first and foremost, because escorting has its risks, and because escorting isn’t socially acceptable.

that is all. carry on!

-B

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